Have you ever tried to prepare yourself for a really important event like a job interview or maybe a tryout for an orchestra or concert band, or maybe you wanted to dance or play for a local sports team? How many times have you “applied” for something ultimately special in your life and then been rejected? It happens to all of us, sooner or later. Rejection is one of the most drastic emotions (having a huge impact on our emotional state) and can have devastating effects on our lives. (see citation below)
Now, imagine for a moment that you were training on one thing, and one thing only, for your entire life. You are in your early 30s and it is time for you to go for it – then you lose. Not only do you lose, but your friends leave you and you are disgraced by everyone – even people you don’t even know! How would you feel, having devoted your entire life, thus far, to that one event and now that you have lost you don’t have a friend in the world? You would certainly experience an overwhelming feeling of rejection.
This scenario is exactly what Jesus went through. Not only did He go through the motions, but He KNEW he would be rejected, basically tortured and then killed on the cross. He knew His friends would abandon Him. He knew the tide of public opinion would turn against Him.(Luke 17:24-26) He knew He would have to suffer the taking on of the sins of the entire world – possibly the most difficult part of the plan since He, Himself, was perfect.
But Jesus went through it all because it was why He came to this world – to die for the purpose that we might live.(Matt 20:27-29) It became difficult, at times for even Him to face the rejection but He understood His task.(Mark 14:36) He also understood how the future would unfold and His part in it.(Luke 20:17)(John 2:19)
Yes, we all fail. Many of us have our dreams smashed to bits. But many of us wallow in self-pity due to this defeat. Christians should understand that God has a plan and purpose for our lives. Defeat and rejection are nothing more than rudders, which if understood correctly, will steer our life courses to the correct paths, where, if it is God’s chosen path for us, will lead to not just success, but great success. If we truly believe in God and learn how He intercedes in our lives, there is no reason to feel pitiful, depression or overwhelming loss from failure. The only truly great success we will have in our lives is to live in God’s chosen path for us. As believers, we will get there, eventually. I am a good example. I was very good in English, spelling and grammar all throughout my school years. I became a computer specialist and worked in that field for over 30 years, then had my career cut short. Now I am writing a blog.(see My Testimony)
The only way to know God’s path for your life is to learn how to hear Him when He speaks to you and to recognize when He is controlling the rudders of your life journey. To learn how to do this takes prayer and guidance from the Word. By reading God’s Word, we learn how he inspired and guided His people many years ago. The same principles apply today. They may seem different, at first, but with time and prayer, you too, will be able to identify if and when the Lord’s tremendous Grace is steering your life in the direction of His path, through the narrow gate.(Matt 7:12-14)
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As researchers have dug deeper into the roots of rejection, they’ve found surprising evidence that the pain of being excluded is not so different from the pain of physical injury. Rejection also has serious implications for an individual’s psychological state and for society in general. Social rejection can influence emotion, cognition and even physical health. Ostracized people sometimes become aggressive and can turn to violence. In 2003 Leary and colleagues analyzed 15 cases of school shooters, and found all but two suffered from social rejection (Aggressive Behavior, 2003).